BY OKOTI ALUORA PATRICK
One way of honouring those we respect is by upholding of their values and keeping them. Good values never become antiquated, they are always living and alive as long as we are ready to uphold them and keep them at our hearts. However, weâ€™ve shifted from this norm and always come up with policies that support our greed gains and term the beauty of our culture out-dated.
I know most of you shall see me as barbaric, obsolescent, obsolete, out-of-date, prehistoric, superannuated, savage, mention them all. But my query remains, are we on the right paths? Is this what our fathers would expect from us? If they woke up today will they proudly stand to own us?
If today our fore fathers were to wake up and given our score card in terms of observing and passing on their principles as far as our culture is concerned, would the score be one to make us proud and leave us respected? Would they score us for being digital in the name of eroding our beautiful culture?
Shall they award us good boys and girls in the name of fighting for girlsâ€™ rights and then later on start fighting for the boy child? On social pillar what would be our score?
Marriage as an established institution deserves no public interference, whether political, social or economic. Marriage as an institution totally deserves to be set aside based on mutual agreement of the involved parties rather not, because the law requires them to be together. A compelled marriage is likely not to last neither is it likely to bear any good fruits. But is this what we are supporting?
I know most of you will consider me to be chauvinistic, opportunistic and malicious may be. But arenâ€™t we seeing the consequences of what we have always advocated for without a second thought? Recently, there was uproar on the social media when a photo of Her Excellency Dr. Joyce Banda came out showing her kneeling before two African presidents as a form of respect, That was in southern part of Africa, but isnâ€™t it Africa?
We come out at the top of our voices claiming weâ€™re modern, dot-com, digital, name them. But where is our beautiful culture draining to? Arenâ€™t we headed to days when our children and grandchildren shall start up again institutions to teach our culture because weâ€™ve done away with them? Arenâ€™t we headed to a time when our children shall stand and ask who wrote this? Not because they will want to praise us, but because they will want to rebuke us? Tell me, who is to blame?
I plead with all stake holders, if they can listen to me, Africanise the Marriage Bill 2013 and enter into books of record of this country even if they wonâ€™t be recognised now, our future generations shall endorse them for that. Forcing one to marry someone because of earlier on circumstances is not what can define respect to girl child, but respecting what our fore fathers respected and few principles added can sum up to a really lucrative lifestyle for our beautiful Kenyan African Girls both within and beyond borders.
The Marriage bill 2013 is nothing but a document that shall be used by the malicious few in society to manipulate the ignorant and the society at large in the name of enforcing law. Itâ€™s going to be used by them to gain for their good and acquire what does not rightfully belong to them. We are going to see marriages break, children brought up by single parents and our society rot because we once passed the bill. We shall come to a time we shall start to collect 1000000 signatures to amend this but it will be too late. It is time, letâ€™s do this in the right order and stand blame-free in the generations that are yet to come.
God bless Kenya, God bless the People of Kenya.