Dear Men, Here Is An Interesting Perspective On ‘Mpango wa Kando’. You Are Doing Badly.

By Caroline Gikunda

Whenever a married man is dating un attached lady, there is that mischievous grin he wears in a manner to suggest that he is a conqueror.

When the man is a tall boy, a number of them are, he will not hesitate to let the world know that he is only using the woman for sex..

One would wonder, unless this word USE lost or changed meaning, you will always be wrong my brother.

Come to look at it this way, most of the times for unknown reason, you happen to carry the cross which is this lady’s bills.

You pay for her house, in which you sleep only two hours, two nights a week, you pay for her fictitious college and hospital bills. You feed her and clothe her.

Whenever you are going out you pick her up and drop her or arrange for a cab, yet when you go to the act, you enjoy equally or she could even enjoy more….
Now you say her role is to satisfy you in bed, but are you getting satisfied as she stares on or she is getting her share as well?

If anything she needs it more than you do, remember you have a wife at home and could easily get these services there, while to her… You are the only service provider.

It’s like having a mechanic grease your dry car and having the poor mechanic pay you in return… Then hearing the same guy brag that he used the car owner. Makosa!!

When the lady has come across some greener pastures and is done with you, dumping you is never complicated. No peace committees will sit over it because it’s was an involvement of the darkness. She will just wake up one day and address you as the husband of your wife… “Bwanake Shiro, sasa mimi nataka kuolewa”…Knowing very well your wife’s mass action is worse than Baba’s and there is no way you will ever add another wife, that relationship will be over! Just like that!! Never mind the fact that you financed both the salon and the Mpesa outlet she runs.

Things are not always as they appear. In this case my masculine brothers, you are the used lot… But you have a choice, to stick to your wife or to accept the situation as the good used guys you are and swiftly move on…