We can choose to behave like a young girl in her early 20s, who wants a bad boy. She will never listen to advice not to fall to that boy with thug appeal. If that be the case, then we can elect the two bad boys back, and we know it is going to be an abusive relationship, and in the end we will be disappointed, abused, and by 2022, they will leave wasted and we will regret not listening to our friends who knew from the word go the relationship will not work.
Alternative we can be like a 28-year-old woman who has been through it all. She can spot a bad boy from a distance and call his BS. She needs a mature man, who knows how to treat a woman right, bring the best in her, take her to high places, buy her some good wine, and treat her gracefully.
The choice is ours. If we go with our heart, which are never smart, we will end up with the bad boys, whose only responsibility is to look good and showmanship (read PR). If we use our heads, we can go with the serious men, who know what in life counts. Fatherly men who know it is wrong for the kids to sleep hungry, know the value of maintaining a good relationship with neighbours, and if in a polygamous arrangement (read the different ethnicities), knows the importance of being equitable to each and bringing them all to the table, instead of isolating others.
The choice is yours. Don’t be cheated that they are all the same. They are not. An older woman will tell you, a mature man is far better than the short thrill the bad boy generates.
Silas Gisiora Nyanchwani