WHY KIKUYU WOMEN NOW MARRY THEMSELVES
By J Bonnie via Facebook
Desperation among kikuyu women to get married has worsened over the years and as opposed to illicit brew which can be destroyed, it seems that my friends from Central Kenya have overabundance of problems which would make their ancestors twitch their ass in their old graves.
These are my words, but they are also substantiated by an article in the Standard/Nairobian which could not escape my eyes for intellectual reasons.
The article is about a chama called Kamweretho, â€œKamweretho is a chama in which unmarried women with grown up children who are about to get married join for the sake of receiving dowry. Through kamweretho, a woman has enough critical mass of money and numbers to â€˜marry herselfâ€™ so that she can receive dowry when her children get married. In Kikuyu customs, a parent canâ€™t receive dowry if none was paid for her.â€ Cate Mukei writes.
Many a times, reasons have been floated to justify why Kikuyu women arenâ€™t â€œmarriage materialsâ€. These reasons are so many and this article just exposes one of the many reasons why Kikuyu ladies â€œhawaolekiâ€. That is, Kikuyus have commercialized everything including marriage. Kikuyu fathers make exorbitant dowry demands which are in essence hilarious and akin to hawking their girls to the highest bidder.
To hit the nail on the head as I always do (and I will be glad if you can call me Opus Dei), Kikuyu fathers have transformed marriage into a money minting industry rivaling smuggling of sugar and other quick cash dirty businesses such as tax evasion and peddling drugs, where many tycoons have excelled with impunity.
I have been myself a witness of this brazen madness when one day I took my friend to pay dowry at Kinangop. Our to-be father-in-law easily agreed with us on everything but money for dowry. He needed 0.8M for her form four dropout daughter whose only claim to fame was being the leader of a praise and worship team at a commercial church in town. He thought her daughter was a celebrity lol, IDIOT!
As a proud Luo who sees things in 3D and who doesnâ€™t treat pranksters like this one fairly, I told him off and made it clear, in a loud intellectual tone, that I will not allow mistreatment of my friend from a conman. The house went into coma and as everyone in our â€œdowry brigadeâ€ implored me to calm down, I fired another missile to the thug demanding 0.8M.
I told him plainly that he should choose between his daughter getting married or being bought. The rest is history as I became a hero in that village.
That is why, when Cate alludes, in her article today, that â€œSome members (of Kamweretho) believe they are paying a repentance fee for â€˜sinsâ€™ of being unmarried and giving birth out of wedlock through kamweretho..â€, I totally agree with her.
Many folks shy away from marrying Kikuyu women because they have been turned into commercial products. Therefore, many Kikuyu men who are attracted to them but have no deep pockets only opt to rent them (hit and run) for short periods but keep away from marriage discussions.
This result into children born out of wedlock whose fathers disappear into thin air because they will be milked dry if they openly identify with the kids. The only option is therefore for the Kikuyu ladies to continue â€œmarry themselvesâ€ and pay for their â€œsinsâ€.
I hope I havenâ€™t annoyed anyone. But even if I have, that is none of my business. You can go hung.