BY CLIFF KODERO
In one concrete statement, one must admit that the world is changing very fast, and so is Kenya. One such obvious change is the increasing dominance of women in our society- this is not a bad thing.
According to a recent Rockefeller Foundation carried out in the United States, women will constitute a majority of the workforce in the future. Today, women earn over 57 percent of degrees offered from colleges, and make over 75 percent of decisions at home.
Kenya stands tall in Africa amongst its peers in the pursuit of gender equality. Because of the 2010 constitution that required that one third of all constitutional officers must not be held by one gender, Kenya only come close to Rwanda in the representation of women in politics and governance.
In the family, The East African, an authoritative publication admits that the Kenyan woman is the most powerful woman in the region. She has won a Nobel Prize, won many gold medals at the Olympics, Boxing champions, ran companies as CEOs, and owns properties than her counterparts.
Even with her highly decorating achievements, the Kenyan woman is still the most confused, highly insecure, and devoid of values amongst all East African women. Plainly said, the Kenyanâ€™s woman success in matters economic and academic has not helped her sustain a working and respectful relationship with the Kenyan man. You can debate this any day and the answer will always be a negative.
It is common knowledge in Kenya that a working class woman is no not a guarantee to a comfortable life for the husband. Most Kenyan men, while sipping Tusker at the bar in the evenings, will admit that they have never benefited at all from their wifeâ€™s money.
Allow me to say that I am advocating for men to sheepishly depend on their wives. However, we must reckon with the fact that equality at home is a double-edge sword. It means that both the husband and the wife become equal breadwinners.
The equality of power and status must be translated into the economy at the house. Overburdening the husband with high end financial decisions while keeping the salary in a safe house except for bi-weekly salon visits is not the neo-definition of equality. Gender equality must also be financial equality and responsibility.
Perhaps finances do not represent the confusion. The zenith of Kenyan womanâ€™s confusion is her loathsome, obnoxious and contempt for the regular Kenyan man. Letâ€™s face the fact. The regular Kenyan guy does not drive, he uses a Matatu. He does not own a house, he rents. If he works, he only paid once a month which means he barely affords luxury.
Kenya is a county where 45 percent of the youths are unemployed for Godâ€™s sake! Even though our women are furnished with this information, most Kenyan women would not shy to be treated as a â€œlady.â€
Edna, the girl from Beijing who appeared on KTNâ€™s Tujuane comes to mind. Even though most people vilified her for her actions, she represented the views of the typical Kenyan woman: the desire for a mzungu, the desire for a good life, to be dined and whined, and to be treated like a lady.
The question is, how would a man working hard for his money spent a percentage of that money treat it on a lady whose only sole intention is to whisk it out away in a drainage pipe? Any serious man with a working brain would not do that. Because most Kenyan men are smart not to that, most of the women have resorted to foreign guys.
There is nothing wrong with dating a foreign guy. The problem is the intention of doing so. Also, there should be considerations that must be taken while going this route. Its true as light in the day that our women are being exploited by foreign Europeans and West Africans out to make a sexual extravaganza on our sisters.
As a noble Kenyan man, I am mad. I am not insecure. I am plainly abhorred at how our women can stoop low to be used as sexual objects. In May this year, ten girls were found making sex tapes with dogs. This was not unusual; this stuff goes on every single day.
Itâ€™s hidden beneath the low self esteem of Kenyan women who believe that dating a mzungu, or a rich Nigerian guy is a climb in the social ladder. I think dating a well self-respectful young man is ticket to social ladder.
There is something about handwork, it always pays. If the Kenyan woman wants to regain her status again, and equal her academic and economic achievements in the region, she has to work on her social skills and mend her damaging relationship with the Kenyan man.
There are a lot of things that have gone wrong in Kenya in the last few months. Some of them have been simmering over a long time, but others just popped up as if the pressure beneath was too much like an active volcano. Interestingly, my head was acting the same way. The Kenyan woman, discover you.