Photo: A beautiful Nairobi couple just about to get married
I once asked my friend, “What is the secret behind your happy married life?” He replied,”You should share responsibilities with due love, and respect to each other. Then absolutely there will be no problems. I asked, “Can you explain?”
He said, “In my house, I take decisions on bigger issues whereas my wife decides on smaller issues. We do not interfere in each other’s decisions. “Still not convinced, I asked him to give me some examples.
He said, “Smaller issues like how many kids to have, the neighbourhood to live, which car we should buy, how much money to save, who, when and where to visit, which sofa, cooker, refrigerator to buy, monthly expenses, whether to keep a maid or not, where to go for holidays, whose mum we should visit etc, etc, are decided by my wife. I just agree to it.”
I then asked, “So then what is your role?†He said, “My decisions are only for very big issues. Like whether America should attack Iran, Whether Russia breached International law by annexing Cremea from Ukraine, the uranium enrichment in North Korea, whether Britain should lift sanctions against Zimbabwe, how to fully exploit Africa’s economic and intellectual potential, whether Yoweri Museveni and Barack Obama should retire, whether Arsenal FC needs to buy new players or change their coach to improve their play, whether the Jubilee government is on the right track, whether Ababu Namwamba should sue the Men in Black, whether Usain Bolt should retire now-while still at his prime etc, etc. My wife never objects to any of these decisions and we live happily!”