Itâ€™s often thought that when you tie the knot, your sex life all but dies.
From hectic work schedules to kidsâ€™ demands, roadblocks to doing the deed can seem endless. You may find yourself wondering, â€œIs our sex life normal?â€ Weâ€™re here to tell you that there is no normal â€” sex is different for every couple.
Donâ€™t believe us? A Reddit thread popped up this week asking married folks to weigh in on how often they have sex. We separated the answers into three categories, based on how long the couples have been married. Some of the answers may surprise you:
Married 0-7 years:
â€œIâ€™m 33, heâ€™s 29. Married one year, together for 3, one kid. Sex happens on average once a week.â€
â€œMy husband and I have been married almost three years and have a baby. We have sex twice a week on average, sometimes more. It is really not a big deal to us though. The sex is AMAZING and just gets better, but we are so happy together it is just a very small part of our relationship.â€
â€œMarried a year and a half, together 5. We have sex from 3 times a week to daily. Youâ€™d think after 5 years itâ€™d get boring, but we communicate our wants and needs and that not only leads to fantastic sex but also strengthens our marriage.â€
â€œIâ€™m 29, heâ€™s 26. Married a little over a year and we have a 2 year old. Iâ€™d say 2-3 times a week. Iâ€™d be ok with 1-2 times a week while he would prefer 5-6 times a week.â€
â€œMarried 1 and 1/2 years. 1 â€“ 2 [times] every other week. We work opposite schedules and have had very, very busy weekends. We are both sad about it, but deeply love each other. Zero kids.â€
Married 7-15 years:
â€œMarried 7 years and now with 1 child. We went from about 1-3 times a day, to 1-3 times a week. But we are both OK with this; because if you â€˜save up for itâ€™, the sex is AWESOME.â€
â€œAlmost 30, married almost 8 years. We do the sex about once every 10 days. Sheâ€™s just started her third trimester, though, soooâ€¦â€
â€œOldish. Married 15 years.
On average we have sex three times a week, but sometimes itâ€™s every day. Whatâ€™s more important is we talk and cuddle every day.â€
â€œTogether for 14 years, been married for 11 years, four kids. When things are not closed for maintenance about five times a week.â€
â€œ37 & 35. Married almost 15 years. Itâ€™s all over the place. Life is really crazy right now. Weâ€™re both working, both in school, and have a 5-year-old son. Sometimes itâ€™s 3x a week, sometimes itâ€™s none.â€
â€œLate 30s. Married 15. Five kids. Our quota is four times a week. Although â€˜quotaâ€™ sounds weird, we joke around about it and itâ€™s a way for us to remember that although weâ€™re busy with life, we still need to have some romantic time with each other to stay sane.â€
Married more than 15 years:
â€œMarried 17 years: 2-3 times a year.â€
â€œTogether 30 years, married 25, two kids, in our 50â€™s. We get it on 3 to 5 times a week. When we do not, we rub each other, kiss and snuggle. It is better than I anticipated it would be at this point.â€
â€œIâ€™m 55, married for 32 years. Twice a week, more or less.â€
â€œIâ€™m 45, sheâ€™s 46. Married 21 years, recently started a live-in separation. Havenâ€™t had sex in over five years.â€
â€œMarried for 20 years, together for 22. Sometimes itâ€™s three times in a day, sometimes itâ€™s once every two weeks. It just depends on what lifeâ€™s throwing at us. Sometimes itâ€™s nice, easy lazy morning sex, sometimes itâ€™s an hour of intense f***ing.â€