By Esther Arunga Timberake via Placenta Party of Kenya
Being a sex symbol is a heavy load to carry, especially when one is tired, hurt and bewildered.Â Before you collect the guts and brand someone a kihii have you examined yourself na ukajikagua vizuri? If you pass the following exam then you are the masterman in your house. It is not about â€œkihiiâ€ it is about your performance status. Jichunge mdomo â€“ the person you are calling kihii may be smarter than you in the malehood industry. Esther Timberlake, Melbourne, Australia 2013
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Although it’s nice to know how your manhood responds to fine touch, that’s not necessarily the type of stimulation you may use, or enjoy, during sex. During intercourse you don’t tend to use light touch; its deeper, and different parts of the body become sensitive in different ways. Men who are circumcised are in for some bad news it puts them at a disadvantage in the bedroom. Those who ‘ve had their foreskin removed as children or adults experience less intense sexual pleasure and orgasm than their peers.
I conducted research about circumcision while I was dealing with a number of particularly tough cases I was handling recently at the divorce courts. I asked the men who took part in the survey whether they were circumcised, and then asked them to rate how sensitive their Overall 400 men who took the survey were circumcised, and 2,000 were not.
For example, uncircumcised men reported an average sensitivity score of 3.72 when they or their partner stroked the head of their manhood compared to 3.31 among circumcised men.
Uncircumcised men also reported more intense orgasms. One possible explanation for any potential difference in sensitivity is that a man’s foreskin may protect his penis head from rubbing against underwear and clothing. Its possible, the researchers write, that friction makes the head of the penis thicker, drier and ultimately less sensitive.
While conducting a project at Kenya Television Network, I also found circumcised men were more likely to report more pain and numbness during arousal than uncircumcised men likely due to scar tissue. I amazed that people report pain during sexual pleasure. This was information I was to air during Prime Time news but the project couldnt materialize due to Governments arbitrary arrests and torture I underwent.
I was going to shock Kenyan homes and families dining tables with research that shocked me too, but felt Â I had to share generously. Circumcised men have a phobia sexually and that is why most of them opt for Viagra or some sexual pills. This is not meant for pleasure but to harden their sheaths and act as pain killers. They sense pain after the intercourse but get used to it.
Circumcision performed to a newborn traumatically interrupts the natural separation of the foreskin from the glans that normally occurs somewhere between birth and age 18. The raw, exposed glans penis heals in a process that measurably thickens the surface of the glans and results in desensitization of the head of the penis.
Circumcised men have less sexual sensitivity given the foreskin is significantly more highly innervated than the rest of the shaft. In my experience, the foreskin itself is the source of by far the most genital sensation and pleasure.
One important function is protecting the glans the way the eyelid protects the eye; in the absence of a foreskin, the glans becomes keratinized from rubbing against clothing and is much less sensitive. Another important function that the foreskin provides an erotogenic (good feeling!) gliding sheath over the shaft, reducing loss of lubrication and decreasing the friction that can decrease pleasure for both partners .
For procreation to occur, the normally flaccid penis must become erect. As it changes from flaccidity to rigidity, the penis increases in length about 50 percent. As it elongates, the double fold of skin (foreskin) provides the skin necessary for full expansion of the penile shaft. But microscopic examination reveals that the foreskin is more than just penile skin necessary for a natural erection; it is specialized tissue, richly supplied with blood vessels, highly innervated, and uniquely endowed with stretch receptors.
These attributes of the foreskin contribute significantly to the sexual response of the intact male. The complex tissue of the foreskin responds to stimulation during sexual activity. Stretching of the foreskin over the glans penis activates preputial nerve endings, enhances sexual excitability, and contributes to the male ejaculatory reflex. Besides the neurological role of the preputial tissue, the mucosal surface of the inner lining of the foreskin has a specific function during sexual relations.
During heterosexual activity, the mucosal surfaces of the glans penis and foreskin move back and forth across the mucosal surfaces of the labia and vagina, providing nontraumatic sexual stimulation of both male and female.
This mucous-membrane-to-mucous-membrane contact provides the natural lubrication necessary for sexual relations and prevents both the dryness responsible for painful intercourse and the chafing and abrasions which allow entry of sexually transmitted diseases, both viral and bacterial.
When normal, sexually functioning tissue is removed, sexual functioning is also altered. Changes of the penis that occur with circumcision have been documented. These may vary according to the procedure used and the age at which the circumcision was performed, nevertheless penile changes will inevitably occur following circumcision.
If youre circumcised, you may need more friction to reach orgasm. I recommend that you keep trying different positions, such as doggy style or missionary, that allow you to maximize stimulation. Or ask your woman to do Kegel exercises and squeeze her pelvic floor muscles, which will put more friction on the head of your penis or else you are one failed husband or boyfriend. But to the contrary, if you still have your foreskin, take advantage of it.
The foreskin contains nerves, and if you roll it back and forth, it stimulates the frenulum. The word frenulum on its own is often used for the frenulum of prepuce of penis or frenulum preputii penis, which is an elastic band of tissue under the glans penis that connects to the prepuce, or foreskin to the vernal mucosa, and helps contract the prepuce over the glans.
Everybody wants to have great sex. If youâ€™re not having any sex, you want it; if youre having okay sex, you want an upgrade to great and if your sex life is great, well, you want it to be mind-blowing. And itâ€™s possible. But there’s more to great sex than meets the eye. And it begins in the kitchen.
Your nutrition is vital to the quality of your sex life. Wining and dining a date will more likely result in a great night’s sleep rather than a great romp in the sack. Be warned though, avoid these killers of sex â€“ croissants or bacon and eggs (which clog arteries and put you back to sleep after weakening your lower horsepower muscle). The worst foods for sex? Guaranteed that men will be on Cialis or Viagra and women won’t be interested in sex at all? The usual suspects: refined sugar, saturated fat, soda, chips funga na kuku robo and excessive alcohol. These will not only make you fat and sick; they ensure that you’ll sleep alone.Â Other culprits are excessive rice,Â nyama choma na boilo, ngwace, waru too much overcooked cabbage and boiled carrots.Â Decrease Man U and Arsenal whatever.
To really get things going, you need to stimulate your circuitry,your nervous and circulatory systems. You cant clog your arteries with saturated fat that slows circulation, inhibits blood flow and decreases the ability of the body to feel stimulation and expect to have great sex.
So brace yourself. Here they are, the top ten foods (and not just in my opinion) to put sizzle in more than your sauti pan.
- Whole grains
Brown rice may look like Cerelac, but a bowl of brown rice may bring back live pins in your frenulum. It biologically peels the outer hardened skin for sensitivity purposes, killing the numbness that has imprisoned you since circumcision. Be warned, its cooking method is different from white rice. This rice majorly does the automatic job of realigning the spinal cord during intercourse. It also kills the stiffness on the skeleton frame making it more flexible for the motion and changes of sex methods.
- Oatmeal porridge“ The Superman of Sex
While not the stuff of fantasy, that morning bowl of oats is high in zinc and can increase testosterone, which increases sexual desire (in both men and women). And being complex carbohydrates, whole grains create staying power after each cold shower, so you can perform in a way that matches your passion. Believe me, I know what am telling you. So the next time you are contemplating breakfast in bed, think oatmeal.
- Cardburys Chocolate
What is the magic of this rich, dark, creamy, sensual, sweet, sexy sorry, I got distracted There is true mojo in chocolate. This lovely indulgence is a rich source of magnesium, which soothes nerves, making us feel open and receptive. But the true power of chocolate is phenylalanine (just being able to say it is impressive and scores big points), an amino acid that raises the bodys endorphins and produces dopamine, the brain chemical that surges during orgasm for both men and women, creating well, spectacularly great O-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h
Men brag with Viagra not knowing that it plays no role apart from sex of fujo and badboy show time business. But I am guessing that they didnt know that it was all about the zinc, which improves testosterone levels which leads to incredible sexual performance, as well as improved sperm count (if you are looking to spread your seed about). But if they did, they’d score big in the brains department as well. Viagra is responsible for 78% hatred development of women towards their men. In due time, unnecessary rants and nagging begin in relationships with both partners innocently not suspecting the scientific shift of Viagra on their lives. Viagra kills muscles badly needed for sexual drive in bedroom. It is the gradual self-assassination sexually which leads to toxic permanent impotence. (I will discuss this next time). Â So men, eat lots of oysters raw if you can. A mix with omena will do you great since omena is a marathon sex lung enhancer. Most of omena eaters will admit to this. You remain tireless in your game, but it depends on which omena we are talking about. Not full-grown, not tiny but the juvenile one.
- Pumpkin and its seeds
For those of us who wouldn’t even think about slurping oysters, munch on some chia, sesame or pumpkin seeds or chow down on spinach, basil, thyme and sea vegetables for your zinc fix. Ensure that most of your foods include thyme during cooking time. Pumpkin cannot be eaten hot directly from fire, it must be cooled off after night cooking for a cool morning breakfast. Or buy dried pumpkin seeds and just eat them as snacks.
- Hot Chili Peppers
Hot peppers really heat things up as we eat them, but capsaicin, the source of that heat, triggers endorphins, our sensations of pleasure, which is very, very good for very, very good sex. Chilies also stimulate the nervous system, accentuating the effects of arousal, which is very, very, very good for very, very, very good sex. Conclusion? Hot, spicy foods can lead to hot, spicy sex. They are vital to cleansing blocked lungs and getting rid of dirty air that decreases sexual punch during intercourse.
- Sugar Cane
vÂ Sugar cane is very vital in clearing alveoli in lungs for addition of horsepower. Sex without respiration horsepower is a doomsday. Chew the lower part of sugar cane but it must be watery, not dry. Remember, too much of sugar cane also leads to impotence. So be balanced. Sugar cane is also a source of fresh breath (natural toothpaste) that kills the foul smell which discourages partners too during sex. Sugar cane juice in tea means up thrust force. Wacheni Viagra jamaa, useless kabisa. .
- Ginger, Garlic, Onions
To really get your juices flowing, pile on the garlic, leeks, onions, scallions and chives. Known as alliums, these powerful vegetables will give you the stamina that pharmaceuticals can only promise. There are religious sects that actually ban the consumption of these humble foods because they believe they feed desire. Containing chemical compounds that stimulate blood flow to genital area, these vegetables cause intense feelings of arousal, resulting in a strong, enduring sex. And if bad breath worries you, just pull the little green sprout from the center of the garlic clove before mincing and make sure you both munch on the parsley garnish on your plates. Vitungu sayaumu kwa uwingi. If you can, blend them together for during cooking time.
Soy is very beneficial to prostate health, which is crucial to male sexual function. That is besides acting as A/C during sex. Soy relaxes and cools the body. When people are relaxed, they tend to be more open and receptive. In the bedroom, that is good! Soy has phytoesterogens, hormone-like compounds that bind estrogen receptors. With soy as a regular part of your diet, vaginal lubrication is less of a problem (that is very good).