By Amazing Julie
I am appalled to note that Kisii men are celebrating because they are not being mentioned on Deadbeat Kenya and are now taking that as a sign that they are the most responsible dads in Kenya.
Allow me to air the truth, which is that Kisii women are born responsible. They cover for their men and they are the ones that make the home. I know many Kisii children will raise their hands and say “If it were not for my mother, I don’t know where I would be today.”
Perhaps things have changed and there are a few good Kisii men that really take care of their families. But a typical Kisii man, takes care of himself first. When for example the tea bonus comes, and I understand this is the period, prostitutes flock from all over the country and the men disappear into Keroka and environs for weeks on end.
And then come back home empty handed. And the wife continuously covers up. And if she does not cover up, she will most likely get beaten up. That’s the truth of the matter. I still speak to many Kisii women who are suffering like dogs. Women who constantly tell me “Julie, please nisaidie I want to come where you are, I leave this nuisance.” Of course I am helpless in this matter so I spend a lot of time texting back and forth and giving encouragement. Because I know many of them have many children and just have no options.
To see Kisii men bragging because they haven’t been anikwad, well it just irritates me. So many of them need to style up. But we the women will continue what we have always done. Which is to protect them and not embarrass them. Perhaps it’s time you appreciated the gesture and took up your role?